Sick of being single..???

On my recent travels browsing through the psychology section of easons book shop (One of My fav places to hide!),

 I was laughing to myself, like the little weirdo I am at the Women's self-help/dating book titles...

'Why Men love bitches'

'Its not him it's you'

And 'secrets for capturing the heart of Mr.right'

One thought sprung to mind....why are Women so bloody needy..?!? I so need to do a blog about this..!

I'm going to be a bit harsh yet realistic..

1) There is no such thing as fairy tale love 2) Prince Charming doesn't exsist and 

3) You won't find the man of your dreams twidling your thumbs sitting at home moaning..and especially not by reading pages of why you should be a bitch to grab a man..! 

Now I speak to all sorts of women and men on a daily basis of all different shapes, ages and backgrounds, One of the many things We all have in common is We want to find someone that We can share Our wonderful lives with..! 

It may take some time, you will most definitely have to kiss one too many frogs on the way, you might even have to be put through hell by your partner...but hey you know what..?

What doesn't kill us makes us stronger, take every person you meet in life as lesson..some useful and some you would rather forget..!

Don't beat yourself up about not finding 'Mr.Right' to be honest I'll let you in on a little secret...He doesn't exsist...!!

It's more like Mr. I can deal with your shit and still love you kinda thing :-) 

A strange thing I find with women especially, Now I'm not tarring everyone with the same brush BUT, We all know someone who puts us to shame by (pretending) they have the 'perfect' life with the 'perfect' partner....

They don't exsist either...See, life's not looking half bad now is it..?

Right I'll get back to where I'm going with this...Singletons....

I've recently been doing my research into online dating and people's reactions to it (if anyone has watched MTVs catfish I know why you would be a bit nervous) 

And I'm really surprised on how embarrassed people are with it...

Nowadays We all live busy lifestyles and lets be honest when we go out at the weekends your probably too hammered (men included) and busy shaking that fine booty to snap up your next love...

So what's your other option...? Because let's be honest Irish people do not approach you sober (and if they do you'd think they were a mental case!) 

Yes there it is...online dating :-) :-) so many people are on it but don't TALK about it..We spend most of our lives on Facebook/twitter and other sites so why not try something different..?!?

I'm going to tell you how I met my boyfriend (who I love dearly and is going to looooove me saying this) 

He stalked me (haha) over....Facebook, Now personally I was never one for meeting people online..but I was out in town one night and thought it was a guy I was speaking to the night previous...and long story cut short, I'm happy and in love and it wouldn't have happened if I didn't bite the bullet and message him back online..! 

Here is a mail from one of my readers stories about her online dating experience...

Hi Deb,

Saw you were looking for online dating stories!

Well about 3 years ago I started talking to this guy online, we exchanged numbers and texted for a while but nothing ever came out of it. I got with another guy and was with him for about 8 months but that went nowhere. Then one Sunday night I got a sweet text from a random number that said " hi my friend ben is standing over me until I text you, he thinks we're perfect for each other" I had to reply to it because it was so cute! It was the guy I had met onlines best friend!

2 years and 1 baby later and we're as happy as ever!

So Ladies and gents get yourself out there..! Meet some lovely and not so lovely people... Have fun, take chances and remember its all an experience.. Remember love yourself first and sure if you can fly so well solo who wouldn't want to be with you :-)

One more thing I will add, don't be desperate it's a massive dating repellant if they're into you they will make an effort end of story, so before you start going out of your way to make them jealous or try impress them by doin X,Y and Z if you need to do that well then...they're just not into you...! Simple as and move onto your next victim..datings suppose to be fun enjoy it

Love Debs xXx

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Take a chill pill..!

Firstly an apology for not blogging in ages, Just been having one of them things (life!) getting on top of me moments.. 

Recently I've being feeling full of anxiety over thinking everything and fearing too much change at once, I'm telling you when you let your thoughts run wild it isn't good for the soul, I almost feel as if I've nearly lost my usual overly positive part of me and I'm trying my damn hardest to get her back :-) but hey you have to climb the highest mountains to reach the peak..! 

When your stressed out its usually because your either 

1) Over thinking things (irrelevant things at that..! 

2) Taking too much things on

3) Not giving yourself a minute

Well I'm guilty as charged on them anyway, first step today as I'm writing this is make a change :-) 

The to-do list grows, the money tree is non exsistant and the guilt riddles for not seeing such a person in (X) amount of time...

But do you know what...So what..Stressing about it all with get you nowhere..! As My Mother always tells me 'Your health is your wealth' and she's right too, that to-do list is never going to get done with its all star team player out of the game (you!) 

Life is one big balancing act, just make sure you have some me time..and don't use my old excuse you don't have time for you...make it..!

Whatever the problem or challenge is, You will get through it, We all seem to put so much pressure on Ourselves to be this amazing person, weather it be a successful career, that weight loss goal, or stressing yourself out to pay off bills...It will happen for you..! 

Hard work eventually pays off and of course the juice is sweeter when you squeeze it yourself :-)

So Here's my top three better than prescribed chill pills...

1) Listen to music..stick your fav tunes on sing at the top of your voice, weather it be going for a long walk or a nice drive to the coast it will make you much more relaxed and clear the head..!

2) Grab your friends/family/partner and waffle the ears off them, I know I've some great people around me (you know who you are :-* ) sometimes you need someone to just simplify things for you, I'm a true believer in a problem shared is a problem halved..! 

3) Make a plan, allocate yourself some me-time weather it be one night a week or an hour out at lunch, time is precious keep some for yourself..! 

Again thank you to all who like and support the page, I have met some lovely people so far and look forward to meeting more :-) 

Love Debs 

xXx

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