Dressing for the first date

Oh the excitement, butterflies and fear of the unknown in preparation for that first date, You want to make a sexy yet not too slutty impression with a sprinkle of natural and that 'I always look this good' vibe.

So where do you start....

1) Dress for the occasion, Okay that new black slinky number may make you look, and feel like a supermodel but if it's a casual dinner and movie date leave the sky scrapper heels and mini at home, Jeans that make a la derriere look amazing, a nice blazer and mid heels still gives that sexy vibe without trying to hard..!

2) Get a Blow dry, There is nothing quite like getting a bit of volume and bounce in that mane to get You feeling great, A good blow dry will literally put a spring in Your step..Hello there sexy..!

3) Take it easy on the tan and make-up,  Many Women's biggest first date mistake is OVER doing it, Relax, You aren't trying to plaster yourself, Take it easy, You don't want to become an orange skinned, giant eyebrow, black eyed drag queen look a like, Less is more go for an improved more polished version of YOU.

4)  Prepare to calm the nerves, It may seem strange, But have your outfit, accessories ect. planned out and be sure to try everything on and ask a trusting friend their opinion, First dates are totally nerve wreaking, Especially if You have been out of the dating game for a while..!

5) Have Fun, If anything the dating World is an exciting one, Weather it be boosting your confidence after heartbreak or trying to catch this New Man in your lives attention, Main thing is to enjoy Yourself, Take everything with a pinch of salt and don't go on a first date expecting a Marriage proposal, Some things work out and others don't, All for a reason, So just enjoy being woo-ed, Wined and dined, After all You are fabulous and if this one doesn't go anywhere, Well the next one is around the corner..!!

Sex and fishy smells.....

Now that the title got your attention...!!! This is an odd blog post from Me, I almost feel my cheeks burning up writing because it's something that is a bit taboo, unspoken,  But as anyone knows who reads my posts, I blog about almost everything, Not only fashion, pretty things and beauty but life too, Subjects like this are a bit risky to post about, But if this encourages people to get checked  I'm all for it, Love by Debs isn't just about fashion and Us Girls being fabulous it's all things in between...!!


I'm surprised about some peoples odd attitude towards sex (Irish People hands up!), Everybody's doing it but nobody talks about it, I don't expect people to interact with this post because of shyness and embarrassment but this is something everyone should be a little bit more clued into...No it's not sexy to talk about STDs but it comes hand in hand with health along with infections like the common cold...They are easily caught, also easily given so if You have had unprotected sex, don't put others at risk, get checked


Sexual Health

Okay so maybe you've only ever had two partners and one day you notice something odd down below, It couldn't be an STD could it...? So your clicking your heart out online reading up on symptoms etc. too embarrassed to go to the doctor....Advice...?

When in doubt get checked out..! 


With one in two sexually active people contracting an STD by 25,  The stats speak for themselves, Best part of it 80% of people show no symptoms



Myths


If you have an STD You will know....... False

Only Slutty Women and Cheating Men get STDs...
As much as We want to believe it FALSE, You could be the most clean cut, innocent person around and catch something, In fact You could be in your 40s happily married and have a STD from an ex partner and not know..Moral of the story ANYONE who has unprotected sex is at risk.

I don't need to use a condom, My partner doesn't have an STD, I can tell...
Can You really...? No tell tale bumps or smells means Your partner doesn't have an STD...WRONG don't be silly wrap up or both get checked. If You are mature enough to be in a sexual relationship, Be mature enough to be responsible, It may not be now it affects you but later on in life can lead to so many problems a big one is infertility.

Skin to skin contact isn't enough, You can only get an STD from semen...False



What's next..?

You go to the doctor and get your test results back, They're positive, You have an STD, How do you tell your partner/past partners...??

Firstly, If your in a serious relationship your partner shouldn't have a problem with getting checked out after all if He/She isn't mature enough to deal with this and support you, Then maybe that person isn't for You, At the end of the day unless your a virgin all people have some sort of sexual history.

Secondly, Lets say your single and have had a few partners which your unsure who you caught it off/ passed it onto... What do you do..?

My advice... Stay anonymous, Realistically if You contacted a person and informed them You could have gave them a STD more than likely word would pass around, Now that doesn't mean don't tell them You HAVE to inform anyone who may be at risk, A few ideas..

• A letter from your GP (they can send a letter with no trace back to You)
• An anonymous E-mail or text message

And remember there is nothing to be embarrassed or ashamed about like I said anybody can be at risk, It's just about being responsible enough to look after your sexual health.

For more info... www.durex.com

                        www.thinkcontraception.ie

Love Debs xXx

Let's talk ACNE

Having Acne can be an absolute pain, It's irritating, drops your confidence levels and no matter how much you try cover it up, It never seems to disappear,

It effects nearly 80% of Teens and 20% of adults both Male and Female, With an alarming 40%+ doing nothing about it..!


I love these Urban myths:

•  Acne is caused from eating greasy foods or too much chocolate (FALSE!)
• Scrubbing your face will clear up acne (FALSE!)

or My Favourite.....

• Sexual activity causes acne (Ermmm FALSE!)

Acne is caused (without getting all scientific) when follicles, or pores get clogged up, Oil that usually escapes through the skins surface gets trapped between dead skin cells, Bacteria then grows and You see a lovely second face growing..!! Don't fret even some celebs suffer with acne

So what do You do...?? How do You get rid of this un-invited acne..??

Squeeze the face off yourself...?? No, No and definitely NO!!! You will scar your skin.!!


There are tons of over the counter lotions and potions, Do they work..?

Not in my experience..

What about the contraceptive pill or retain A creams..? Em well, Not really, it's about the difference in having a face full of spots to half a face full


What next...?

Most of My clients with acne surprisingly don't do anything about it, Using cheap brands that irritate break outs more than anything else,
The advise I give is either go 100% natural with products (i.e health shops) or Spend (Invest) the money on your skin (Do your research), What good is using a €40 bottle of foundation on your skin when the problem lies underneath..!!


The main factor when getting rid of acne is to CONTROL it, That can be done by using the correct products for your skin,
If you suffer with acne I really would recommend trying out Dermalogica's face mapping treatment, Your Therapist will take a few minutes to complete a skin analysis and prescribe products best suited for your skin, It's a free service in most salons when you buy a product too..!

My Top 3 products for spot busting are...


1)      Daily Microfoliant

 €51.20

2) Special Clearing Booster                                                                                                                         

€50.20

3)         Skin Kit- Starter packs (great for trying out before committing to large sizes)                                      

 €32.40

€57.20

For More info log onto www.dermalogica.ie

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Stage 5 clinger...!!!!!

So, Your out the Weekend and meet this lovely Guy,
You start texting back and forth, A few dates pass, You kinda like him but your not head over heels.

He won't back off, Your bombarded with texts, phone calls the lot

What do you do...?

Why can't people take the hint, You're just not that into them...!! God I sound like a right bitch, But We've all had (at least) one cling-on in the dating game..!!!

How do you get rid..? Ignore them..?

No, From My experience honesty really is the best policy (They cling harder otherwise)

Everyone goes out with someone their not that into at some stage, You have to be brutely honest and straight it's the only way they un-cling (or the old 'I'm seeing someone else and it's getting serious trick works a treat!) 

Clingers have this way of making you feel almost guilty You're not into them as much as they'd like you to be, it's a terrible feeling...!! 

Here's Some warning signs of a stage 5 clinger....

1) You've been on one date and they are all OVER you and start talking about future 'plans' 

2) The more you ignore them the more they see this as a 'chase' 

3) They awkwardly corner you/your friends or in fact anyone who you've ever spoke to at social events.

4) You hear through the grapevine that after a two weeks of texting, Both of you are in a 'serious' relationship

5) Cyber-stalking, accidentally 'liking' pictures on Facebook, stalking all close friends, and exes profiles

6) They text You over and over, You don't respond and yet you still get a 'Sorry for bothering You' text, Followed by a 'who's this' or 'Sorry, wrong number' hours later..! 

7)  After Months of endless stalking, You think your in the clear, Noooo you bump into them and within hours you get a 'Sorry I couldn't stick around had to rush' or 'It was great seeing You' text (Time for a number change!) 

If a lot of these sound familiar and you think YOU could be a 'Clinger' don't fret, Take a look at this blog post I wrote a few Months back http://lovebydebs.blogspot.ie/2013/03/why-he-didn-call-you-back.html


Just a word of reassurance to anyone experiencing the stress of a clinger.... They all give up sooner or later, You will experience being labelled a 'bitch' ect. ect. But Hey, You can't help who You do and don't fall for..!!!

Dying to be a skinny bitch..!!

Since I start blogging (and spending my life online) alarm bells have gone off about an issue I think is becoming a HUGE problem and I really need to get this out there,

Body image.....

Now don't get me wrong who is 100% happy with their bodies...Well, Nobody, 

But I'm not talking about this, I'm talking about this new-age breed of obsessive weight loss and starvation going on, literally Women (and some Men) 'dying to be thin' and picture after quote sending out the ' I'm not good enough' message online..

It's sad, It really does get to me that some people out there are on such self-destruction mode, As a Woman myself I do feel the pressure of trying to be perfect, but the older and wiser you get the more you realise that it doesn't matter what size you are, you won't be happy and you'll move onto the next so called 'flaw' to fix..! Love the skin your in...!!! I can't stress this enough to any Young Girls out there..!

Eating disorders, Diet pills ect. Is a massive problem today, By writing this blogpost I want to send out the message that....

We are ALL in the same boat, We all dislike parts of Our body, I have a list as long as my arm about things I'd love to change, but trust me you'll be happier if you accept your body, flaws and all.

Remember ladies confidence is a very sexy thing, have you ever met someone who's fairly average looking but there is something about them...?

It's the way they carry themselves, the message they are sending out to the World..! 

I must add in...

Be healthy if you want to lose weight just stop eating crap and go walking..! Diet pills and becoming calorie obsessed isn't going to transform your life into a happy fairy tale, And that's what (in my opinion) I think goes wrong with body image nowadays, 

If I have a smaller (bum, tummy ect ect.) I'll be happy.

If I have a bigger (insert here) I'll be happy

If I lose five more pounds, I'll be happy

NO.YOU.WON'T

I'm going to come across very non-Irish here (We hate to big Ourselves up, In the fear of being called 'stuck-up' ect.) 

So I ask You, Next time you get out of the shower look at yourself, Instead of being all 'euuuu I hate my big....' And 'I wish I could change...' 

Pick out something or a few if you can of things you LOVE about yourself weather it be your hair, bum, boobs, eyebrows, lips, eyes or even your toenails...Focus on it...!!! 

And if you can't do that pick a skill your good at and focus on it...!!

Remember Image is a funny thing, With social media being a huge thing Today, What you see and perceive can be very distant from reality, 

You know when You look at pictures via facebook, instagram ect. and think God I'd love to have His/Her ...(insert here) Just remember, 

You don't know who is doing the exact same thing to You :)

Love Debs xXx

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Bitch pleeeease..?!?!

I'm sure most of You have come across this scenario...

Your innocently walking down the street/ In a club/pub and you give a nice friendly smile to the fellow Woman your passing by and get absolute evil daggers in return..!! Why why why...???

Did you do something wrong..? 

Not at all, it's just something I can't get my head around and anytime it does happen I get that 'kick in the chest' feeling, The older i'm getting the more i'm realising it's not You it's them, BUT It costs nothing to be nice and some Women will never grasp it..!! 

I'll get you to imagine this for me...

There is three men in a pub, One goes to the Toliet, the other two start gossiping about him and while he's in the Toliet he smiles at a complete stranger and gets the 'evil eyes' in return...

Does this ever happen with Men ever emmmm NO..!!

I wonder sometimes why wasn't I born a Man, Why are Women such bitches..!!

Now don't get me wrong all sexes love an occasional let off some steam bitch (For Sanities sake!!) but seriously the drama of some Women out there, too busy wanting what others have then looking around and appreciating what their own life has to offer..!!

A message to anyone guilty of it:

Life is there for the taking, Your never going to get what 'your 'wan' around the corner has by talking about her, Get off your arse and work for it instead..! 

Anyway now that's off my chest I'll get back to where I was going with this....

I'm quite a spiritual person and am a true believer in energies and karma, there is an old saying (One of my favourites) and I hope by sharing this someone out there will take it in...

'Holding onto anger is like drinking poison and expecting the other person to die'

Now you can apply that to almost any negative thing that's ever happened in your life, Let things go, be happy and smile...!!!

We all have Our insecurities and not smiling back at someone or being nice isn't going to make us feel any better now is it...? 

Did you ever wonder why men seem so much more carefree (apart from the fact they don't really have as much responsibilities as us Women) They care less, they don't care if there neighbour is driving a better car or that they haven't got a better body than the dude in the office, They kinda just get on with it don't they...!!

As much as I hate to admit it, We are all judgemental little creatures and being human We naturally do judge a book by it's cover BUT next time you think and listen a little before you judge, I've built great relationships with People over time  that I've given a chance to, So what I'm getting at is next time someone's giving you the evil eye, Give them a smile and try not create an opinion on the Woman beside you from your feelings, So what if you don't like the look of her or have heard other people's negative opinions..Give everyone a chance :-)

We are all going through the same struggle in life, You may not see it but we are and at the end of it all it costs nothing to be nice, If anything you gain from

It..!!

Thanks for reading ❤

Love Debs xXx

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